what has been so alarming to me is that this stuff starts early....and i mean early. before minnie & tully were even hatched out of the womb, people were quick to chime in to let me know all of the things that "boys do better" or vice versa, telling me the world of things minnie would do first because "girls are early learners".
i would like to tell you that i haven't gotten on board with all of this craziness...but i have! with twins, there is an innate feeling that creeps on in of comparing your 2 bambinos. as much as it drove me bonkers for others to do, one would think i wouldn't have become an active participant. ahh.....how funny life is! the minute we say we won't do something....we do!
i know minnie is minnie and tully is tully. two completely different people....two different hearts. two different sets of lungs. 2 different sets of hands and feet. 2 different noses. 2 different juicy, plump baby booties....the list goes on and on. however, knowing that they are different has not kept me from jumping on the comparison bandwagon.
- who sleeps better?
- who eats better?
- who sat up first?
- who rolled over first?
- who had the better day?
- who had the better nap?
- who is louder?
- who is easier?
- who is more people-friendly?
- who is more content?
the list goes on and on. i am surprised no one has ever asked me whose number #2's are stinkier! if they had, i would say it depends on the day. both have won that category:)
seriously, it is so sad that we raise these little ones knowing that there is always a bar that has been set by someone. how will they feel when they don't make it? how will they feel when they know child A hit a given mark at a certain age/time and that he/she didn't?
god thankfully made us different so why in the world do we try to mold us all into same? what a mess we would be in if we shaped the universe! i, for one, am glad i'm just one person living in what god created. he did create us equal....BUT different. it all comes out in the wash over time. for now, i am going to try and enjoy my little ones the way HE made them...
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Love their outfits!!! My last two (a boy and a girl) were born 15 months apart. The comparing got a little easier as they got older. You have two precious children! PRECIOUS!
ReplyDeleteI am a mother of fraternal twin 8-year old boys. I have one 1st grader and one 2nd grader. One of them has some learning disabilities that the other does not... we decided in K5 that the one currently in 1st grade should repeat K5. We wanted his foundation of knowledge to be solid and thought the social ramifications of such a thing would be less. I have spent years trying to explain to people our decision. The one we made based on the fact that J and B are two very different people and that we make decisions based on the best interest of each, not as a pair.
ReplyDeleteHaving multiples is not always easy, but it is always rewarding. I am glad you see Minnie and Tully as individuals and not a set.
They are some of the most adorable twins I have ever saw.... I love reading your story. It transports me back in time.